I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself – Rita Mae Brown
Too many times I have not been content with who I am physically, emotionally and mentally. I have allowed people to make me feel less than I am because of who they thought I should have been at that moment. I have let myself believe that I need to fit in- conform to the statusquo and I can assure you that’s an extremely miserable place to be. Despite similarities in culture, temperaments, character, upbringing and education, each of us are uniquely different. God did not create many copies of the same thing.
Many times we question our ability to do things and listen to negativity so much that we drop our dreams altogether. Negativity should never be the reason you give up your dream.
Don’t get me wrong, criticism is very important but never allow anyone’s opinion of your dream to be the reason why you quit. In that moment of course that negativity is hurtful but don’t make any life altering decisions in the heat of the moment. Cool down and analyse what was said, take what you need and discard what you don’t. That means if the negatives hold water, don't discard them. Swallow that bitter pill, it will help you.
No one said pursuing your dream would be easy. On the contrary, it will be hard and some days will be worse than others but you have to remember what comes easy, usually goes easy. What you toil for, you value highly. So no matter how hard it gets, you’ve got to hang in there and keep at it. Keep your eyes on the prize: where you’re going Vs where you are.
Is it scary? Very much so but it really is up to you whether you stay paralysed because of fear or rise above it. And the latter is always better. Acknowledge that whatever dream you have; God has equipped you to accomplish it. Only have faith and follow His lead.
So don’t go conforming to the standard set by your peers. Stand out and surpass their standard. Don’t look down upon yourself because of your physical or financial limitations but pursue that dream knowing that your diligence will open the necessary doors for you.
Every time you’re knocked down, get right back up. Don’t sulk about how many times you fall. Simply rise up again. No pity parties my dear. Find people who understand your journey because you will need them to support you. Find mentors to hold your hand and cheer you on. People who will tell you the hard truths without being too afraid.
Hold on to that dream! Pursue it and do not give up!