Wednesday, February 22, 2017
I don't mean the illegal stuff- just the challenging stuff.
I digress! I don't think I've changed; however I'm open to the school of thought that my response to certain things has changed. For instance, I have no expectations of people. I don't mean I have low expectations, I mean I don't obligate anyone to do anything for me. I appreciate my friendships and all but I will not take offense because someone does not do what I would under normal circumstances expect them to.
But again, maybe that's how I have changed. I seem to give off the 'I don't care' vibe. Don't get me wrong, I care but not about the things that people ordinarily care about! I care more about bettering myself than changing people to benefit me. Of course I have my days when I want things done a certain way by people to my benefit but most days, I'm very able to cover all my bases.
I love to help people as and when they think it's necessary- in every way possible. As to whether they accept the help or not, is entirely up to them. So, I have to ask what your take is on this whole people changing thing. Do people change or is change just a perception of different from usual response to the same stimuli?
I throw it to you!
Thursday, January 26, 2017
Life can prove entirely busy and time-consuming. But we have all come to embrace life as so. If it's not the job it's friends or social media or ministry or family or television. Our lives are so full of events that just keep going we just have to be deliberate and stop.
I find that too many people are moving through life fatigued and cranky because they barely get enough rest. No, I don't mean sleep but rest. They just have not taken time off to shut everything out and breathe for a moment.
Unfortunately I used to be one of those people who was always feeling tired, spent, fatigued- and many times I find myself slipping back into it- but I have learnt to be more deliberate about my time. I have learnt that I am worth the investment that I give to other things in my life. And I have learnt that I am as important as the things I often prioritise over myself.
I have learnt to invest in me- and I don't mean the left over time when I'm tired and out of it. I mean productive time when I can just sit and think through life, re-invent myself and spend time exploring my dreams, passions, ambitions and aligning them to fit into my time.
You are worth your time! You are worth your productive time! You are worth the time when you are alert and can make sense of the things you want to do with your life! Invest in yourself because you are worth it!
Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Tuesday, December 20, 2016
Wednesday, November 2, 2016
There's this awesome friend if mine who recently decided to settle down with the woman of his dreams. For the record, I don't really know her but from what I hear, she's of sound character.
A few friends were recounting how the engagement unfolded and how carefully thought out the whole thing was. Anyway, in the midst of all this 'madam pretty' decides to put it out there how he had tried to chase her and she turned him down.
It was hilarious!!! I had to slap myself to try and grasp this kind of nonsensical ramblings! I mean, who cares if he chased you, proposed and you jam! He's got him a woman who said yes! The rest of what did or didn't go down between the two of you is none of our business- no one cares.
If you hung him out to dry and thought your popularity would sail through the roof as a result, guess what, we still don't care! Because you just sound like some jealous immature schoolgirl who can't believe he moved beyond you and landed himself a babe who actually said yes!
In other words, get over it and do so real fast. Stop boring us with your 'I turned him down stories' because at the end of the day, we only hear what you tell us. His story could be different but because he's too civilized for 'trading turn-down stories' all we have to go on is what you have to say.
It doesn't matter if you're female or male. When you walk away from a relationship or the possibility of it, it's no one's business. People will pretend to care about what you have to say then go talk about you and your immaturity. I'm not much for talk but heck, you gave me a whole blog post darling- I probably will write a poem too! Lol.
Like a wise man once said: 'If you have nothing constructive to say, don't say it!'
Thursday, October 27, 2016
Unfortunately, this is not the most popular sentiment in a generation obsessed with submission(read en-slaving) women. Women have been conditioned into believing that their lives are lived for men. Men also have been conditioned into believing the same. So we have a whole generation of young underachievers whose greatest achievement is to 'serve a man' and 'be served by a women' in the name of submission.
We have a whole generation of women who have planned for nothing except the 'opportunity' to 'belong' to a man. Women who will give up their hopes and dreams and settle for helping a man achieve his because they have been conditioned to do so. And of course men who have gotten with the program. A lot of men feel entitled to female submission. They believe it is their place to dominate these beings who probably have no dreams of their own and even if they do, they are not all that important!
Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against submission(serving one another humbly in love) but I have a major issue with the concept of submission being used as permission for men to walk all over women. I have an issue with what people have chosen to define submission as! Yes, I do have a major problem with men who have not married a woman, requiring submission of her. I will not speak for married people because I'm not and have never been married, so I have no authority in that realm.
That being said, it's about time we start to question the things we believe and why we believe them as such. All things are relative and subject to interpretation! What is the foundation of what you believe and who is responsible for the interpretation that you have now come to accept as unchallengeable truth? Why are you afraid to challenge that supposed truth and why do you take offense when someone else does?
Women are not and were not made to be slaves! All were made equal, the only variation is our modes of contribution to societal welfare. So, women rise up and outgrow your slavery mentality because future generations are depending on you! Men, learn to honour women because one day you will have a daughter and imagine the legacy the men of her generation will be living! We have the ability to impact the future. Let's start now!