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Sex God's Way Is Underrated!


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'Could you please direct me to where the SK meet is happening?' 

'Just go past that building; there's a tent just behind it' she said

It was 'Easter Saturday', I honestly have no clue what the Saturday between good Friday and Easter Sunday is called. So we'll just go with Easter Saturday.

Anyway, I made my way along the uneven terrain to the tent. Yellow, orange and blue balloons with white ribbons graced the tent. A beautiful face smiled at me welcoming me to the meeting.

'Hi, my name is Jessica' I said, smiling back

'I'm Agatha' she responded

My eyes took in the setting. Blue chairs made a circle around mats laden with mattresses; I could already feel that warm fuzziness creep up on me. Yes, that fuzziness you feel when you walk into your house after a really long day and you're just happy to have a place to call home. This felt like home.

The ladies trickled in slowly. I took mental note of each one even as they introduced themselves and I couldn't help but feel grateful to be in the midst of Daughters of the King. We were here to talk sex and dating; needless to say, the former excites me to talk about!

'I think sex is overrated' she said, as she went ahead to explain herself. I almost interjected then thought about it and decided to wait my turn.

I have heard it said before and I just did not bother to get into it then. But the more I think about this statement, the less I agree with it. I quickly remembered something that St. Augustine said 'Never judge a philosophy by its abuse.' We are very quick to define things based on their abuse. What we however forget is that for something to be abused, it must have an intended use! 

When people say 'Sex is overrated' it's because they never understood sex, let alone it's purpose. Contrary to popular belief, I believe that sex God's way is underrated. The maker of a thing, knows it's purpose and it's use but we (in our fallenness) have taken a thing that is good and perverted it into an ugly thing.

I believe, sex is holy. Sex is sacred. Sex is beautiful. And sex has purpose; 
1. Procreation (Gen 1:28)
Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

2. Enjoyment
(Need I explain this?)

3. Companionship and intimacy (which some will also call worship). The kind of intimacy that comes with sex should ideally leave one 'naked and unashamed' when enjoyed in the context of marriage. 

Gen 2
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Again, popular belief will say 'have sex with that special someone' but if you're like me, there have been a few special someones in your life. And you did not marry any, let alone all of them. So to this I say, 'have sex with no one except that person you get married to' because that is the context in which sex should be had. (Paul addresses this in his letter to the Church of Corinth)

1 Corinthians 7:2-3
Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.

When we glorify the abuse of a thing to be it's definition, we in essence are partakers in the abuse. Maybe sex the world's way is overrated but sex God's way is really underrated.

Galatians 5:18
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery,[c] fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders,[d] drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.




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Comments

Oweitu said…
We even fear to talk about it in the open, I think its because we dont consider sex a gift from God. Otherwise, why the insanity?!
April 3, 2018 at 10:31 AM
5ive Wads said…
Yes! It's some sort of forbidden thing to talk about. It is clouded with shame because of how much it is hidden. And while we are not talking about it, the world is determining and setting the standard for what it should be. Hence the insanity!
April 4, 2018 at 6:36 AM
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