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Cut your cloth according to your coat!

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Weddings! The more of them I attend, the more I want to attend yet the less impressive they are. When I was younger it was such a big deal for guys to splash money on weddings and leave you talking but when I grew up I started to understand that a lot of the people who splashed money did not even have it.

Selah!

A lot of them put people on pressure to contribute towards their wedding and don’t even have the half of it. how absurd is that?

I almost got married last year and it helped me to go through the rigour of wedding meetings and what it means for two people to show up for a meeting that you expected maybe at least 20 of the people who claim to be your friends to attend. It quickly taught me that no one is under any obligation to contribute towards your wedding let alone attend your fund-raising meetings.

Sadly though, I don’t think many people know this. They make their plans around other people’s money. It could be that they expect everyone to be happy for them and contribute towards their event or maybe they are just as naïve as I was in that season.

I quickly learned that the modest thing is to start saving up towards a wedding- if it features anywhere in your future plans. In the event that you think you will get married even in the far future, start putting money aside regardless of how little it is. Those small amounts of money can start you up when you put your plans into motion.

It’s a bit weird for the couple to be unable to even pay off something as small as the venue they use for wedding meetings. It quickly discourages the people who attend the meetings who begin to consider the couple unserious.

It could even be things like the bride and grooms personal business- what they intend to wear and all. Buy what you need and always consider the need to constantly adjust your budget. Prioritise what is absolutely necessary like the actual ceremony- the church fee that is.

Some of the possible spending avenues are not set in stone and can be done without. For instance, I don’t see why a couple would be spending 8million on food when they have no idea where they will spend their honeymoon. I mean, what is the priority here? Would you not rather have a proper plan for the consummation of your marriage than spend yourself out only to have loans to clear?

Obviously we all have different priorities but honestly speaking, the wedding reception is one afternoon or evening- what remains after that is your cross to bear as a couple. So, in all your choosing and prioritizing, be wise. Learn from other people’s lessons and cut your cloth according to your coat!

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