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Calm down Madam!!!

There's this awesome friend if mine who recently decided to settle down with the woman of his dreams. For the record, I don't really know her but from what I hear, she's of sound character.

A few friends were recounting how the engagement unfolded and how carefully thought out the whole thing was. Anyway, in the midst of all this 'madam pretty' decides to put it out there how he had tried to chase her and she turned him down.

It was hilarious!!! I had to slap myself to try and grasp this kind of nonsensical ramblings! I mean, who cares if he chased you, proposed and you jam! He's got him a woman who said yes! The rest of what did or didn't go down between the two of you is none of our business- no one cares.

If you hung him out to dry and thought your popularity would sail through the roof as a result, guess what, we still don't care! Because you just sound like some jealous immature schoolgirl who can't believe he moved beyond you and landed himself a babe who actually said yes!

In other words, get over it and do so real fast. Stop boring us with your 'I turned him down stories' because at the end of the day, we only hear what you tell us. His story could be different but because he's too civilized for 'trading turn-down stories' all we have to go on is what you have to say.

It doesn't matter if you're female or male. When you walk away from a relationship or the possibility of it, it's no one's business. People will pretend to care about what you have to say then go talk about you and your immaturity. I'm not much for talk but heck, you gave me a whole blog post darling- I probably will write a poem too! Lol.

Like a wise man once said: 'If you have nothing constructive to say, don't say it!'

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