BEAUTIFUL LIFE

“You do not have to tell your husband everything… some things are between you, God and your grave” she spoke softly filling this soon to be wife with stupidity. You may be appalled by the fact that I called it stupidity but believe it or not, that is pure nonsense. What is the point in getting married if you’re going to conceal things about yourself from your spouse? Your life does not belong to you anymore. A wise woman once said to me, “if you’re getting married for you to be comfortable then it’s not your time yet.” At that time I of course thought to myself “who says things like that” because it completely did not sound do-able let alone realistic. One of the more popular quotes in our day is; a man is only as good as his word and that is so true. But does this apply to the male species only? Or does it apply to mankind? We all have those friends who keep telling us what they intend to do and they never get round to it so much that the next time they come up with...

‘I do not pay you to think’ he blared.   ‘When I tell you to do something, you do it.’ I stood, frozen entirely from my head down to my toes. I couldn’t help thinking to myself; who does this man take me for? Despite my goodwill and teachable spirit while working for him, he dares to insult me so much? When did I become his puppet and not the independent mind that I am? All these questions and more kept running through my head. Earlier that morning, a client had come by the office and he needed some work to be done on his car or so I thought. So as the administrator I was required to draft a quotation which I did until the client started to tell me to inflate the costs. Being the person I was, I refused to do this and he went directly to my boss to lodge in his complaint. In all my naivety, I expected my boss to correct him and tell him we would do no such thing. My boss called me into his office and gave me a piece of paper that had inflated costs for each of the compone...

I want a guy who will love me and support my dreams, treat me like royalty and make me happy. I want… You can continue the list of things you want my dear sisters because I’m sure they are quite a number. Me, me, me, me, me. It’s all about me; my needs, my wants, my desires, my expectations and my dreams. Honestly, when I talk to women who desire to get married and listen to what they have to say, it’s quite disturbing and before you go agreeing with me my dear gentlemen, this applies to you as well. Many if not all of us all sound the same. We want to get married for us and what we can get out of the marriage. We might not even be opportunistic individuals or anything of the kind but we are extremely selfish by default. When my amazing fiancé and I decided we wanted to spend the rest of our life together, we were super excited. We had all these amazing things to talk about: Our hopes, dreams, expectations and desires just to touch the tip of the iceberg. We wanted to know a...

A few days ago, I met a person who introduced herself to me as a Kingdom woman and it caused me to think. If one is a Kingdom woman do they really have to introduce themselves as one? I mean is it really necessary? I know you’re probably thinking if they are unashamed of it why not? I agree. If they are proud of it, why not? However, I have just one issue with this kind of introduction. Is it that your life cannot speak for you that you have to predetermine what another’s perception of you will be? Because the Word says you will tell them by their works! And besides, are we not the Bible that unbelievers read? How are we sure that after one has introduced themselves as so that they will live up to the label they now possess? Is this not the reason why people go around making statements like “wabula balokole?” (translated as “surely saved people”)I’m just saying; if you are a Kingdom woman, then let your actions speak for you because ultimately one cannot act forever. Your...

 I think this is by far one of the easiest to understand but hardest to apply principles in the life. How many times have you done things to people and expected different results in return? It’s like that office you walk into and you smile at the person at the front desk and they just stare at you like some statue until they realize how important you are to their boss and then they start smiling at you. Really? Why is it more appealing to smile at me based on who I know? I still am the same person aren’t I? Let’s bring it closer home. We all have those very selfish people who subscribe to the title of friend in our lives. They drain, drain and drain you some more financially, emotionally, mentally and walk in and out of your life like it’s some public toilet. Jess this, Jess that but are never willing to be exerted on the same kind of pressure they exert on you. I mean duh; people pay to use public toilets #Just saying! It makes no sense to expect of me what you are not w...

I am an amazing, beautiful creature! oh yes, I just said that and I am so very confident in who I am. These however are just two of the things that I am. Many times I have met these awesome, awesome personalities who will tell me one or two things that they love about me and their sentiments definately vary from person to person. Sometimes, I love what they love about me and other times I'm thinking really? It is no way a guarantee that what they love will be what I love. Why? Because people are different and so are their tastes and preferences but where does one draw the line between the person they love and who people perceive them to be? I have met people who say I'm always all about business and then I have met those who think I never stop laughing. I honestly love both sides of me because I have come to appreciate the differences in temperament and just appreciate and capitalize on my strengths instead of my weaknesses. You best believe I have weaknesses and they are n...